Rag Doll

A Word From The Director

Rag Doll is a story about a woman who’s married to a gay man. I know the story all too well because it was mine for nearly 8 ½ years, and it’s a story that’s all too common in this day and age. We live in a world where everyone wants to celebrate the bravery of those who eventually shed the constraints of society and embrace their true natures. However, no one ever talks about the woman. No one ever asks how she’s been damaged as a result. I wanted to give her a voice. I wanted to show the wounds that afflict her in the wake of another person’s self-discovery.

When a woman is married to a gay man, the harm to her self-perception, her fragile feminine core, her very identity, is devastating. Indeed, I have been impaired in ways I could never have imagined, and to this day I strive for healing, restoration and a return to wholeness. Unfortunately, as much as a woman in my situation may want to blame the other party for her injuries, what I’ve found to be consistently true is that the woman is complicit in her own destruction. This is due, in large part, to the tremendous amount of confusion surrounding the idea of unconditional love. How much power does love actually have? What does real love even look like? We inherit some very false perceptions about these notions from both our society and our own dysfunctional upbringings.

In the end, the worst lies are the ones we tell ourselves, because they keep us trapped in hopeless situations, and we become unwitting accomplices in the annihilation of our own souls. Rag Doll is an edgy, thought-provoking short film about a woman who stays married to a gay man because of her own childhood dysfunction and twisted understanding of love. And yet, she tries desperately to convince herself and others that this is real love–to know another’s damage and to love them anyway. It’s the story of love gone awry, and the pain that exists when we become blinded by our own human frailty. It’s a story that desperately needs to be told.

– Zena Dell Lowe

Director Zena Dell Lowe